1. Her sense of self-confidence. Teresa feels scared in her first position as aself-regard (95) was ok, but she would benefit by strengthening heroptimism (110) was likely to be a healthy point of leverage in buildinginterpersonal relationships (95) indicated that she longed to take timeself-actualization (104) was fairly strong and Teresa talked about how
Teresa was beginning to get the message that her new employer believed in her
emotional and social well being and was really pleased to learn that the investment
wouldn’t stop with just her individual needs as she and her teammates in the
Environmental Division were also supported in being a strong and viable team. The
team would be taking the TESI (Team Emotional and Social Intelligence Survey) in a
few months and she’d be a part of taking the Survey, evaluating the team’s performance
in skills such as motivation, emotional awareness, conflict resolution and stress
tolerance. Days were marked out on everyone’s calendars for once a month team
building sessions where they would use the data from the TESI, connect it with their
reflections on projects that were successful or challenged and intentionally keep
building their skills to work together.
After the coaching session, Teresa felt hopeful and committed to being a
productive member of the firm for a very long time.
paralegal, but upon discussion she recognizes she has strengths to build on
including her previous work experience.
2. Her goals. However, she and her coach checked her reality testing (102) to
make sure she maintained good perspective and didn’t just look at the world
with rose colored glasses.
3. Her to develop more friendships. She’d focused on career and family and was
truly feeling lonely for personal friends. Teresa recognized that a few close
friends would make a big difference for her whole life, but she was worried
that she just couldn’t invest the time. She was surprised that her coach would
even suggest this was important, after all didn’t the law firm just want billable
hours? It seemed like investing in friends would diminish her contribution at
the firm. Teresa’s curiosity was definitely engaged.
4. Her important it is to her to contribute to making the world a better place. This is
why she chose to be a paralegal and work in environmental law. She would
be supporting cases focused on water quality and hazardous waste
management. She talked about her passion and excitement and
demonstrated why this skill and her optimism are key components of her
Teresa and Abigail discussed a strategy, with Teresa taking the lead on changes
she was going to work on. First she knew it had to be small focused steps
because she was already busy. She decided to build her self-regard by: 1)
giving herself positive messages at least 5 times a day, 2) noticing what was
going right, and 3) taking at least 15 minutes each evening to reflect and write
down how she felt with the positive messages and what she did right during the
day. She committed to doing this for 28 days straight, as Abigail emphasized
that she’s building new habits supported by new neuronal pathways. She also
decided to have a least one personal lunch or coffee break a week that was just
meeting with friends, not about business. Teresa will also do this for four weeks
and then decide on next steps. She was intrigued with Abigail’s confirmation that
the firm recognizes that people need connections and that folks who feel that
they have a full whole life are better long term contributors to the firm and support
their clients and co-workers more effectively.